Things the spouse said about 19. I need to keep these present and remember these things were what was said. It kills me each time I see them and think about it but it is the only thing that is going to keep the truth in my forefront. He tells me she isn't what he wants in a relationship but these say different to me. Especially the last one. I have to remember these so I can walk out the door tomorrow. Damn tomorrow will be the hardest day of my existence. And the worst part of it all is knowing that I am willing and able to forgive it all and move on to try to work things out.