Bad places

Last night I posted a question on Facebook to the couples. I asked if they often get asked if the check is together or separate. All said never or nearly never. Funny. We get asked every time we go out. I have mentioned this to the spouse before about it bothering me and that it isn't right and that he doesn't treat me as if I am his spouse. I have said in anger though honestly that he treats our daughter more like a wife than he does me.
This question comes so often that I thought maybe. Just maybe it was the way severs were taught now. To not make presumptions. I guess not. The public doesn't view us as a couple.


So. I'm going through kids texts like I do periodically and see spouse telling her he thinks she's pretty and you looked nice today. And you're a beautiful young lady etc. I can't remember the last time anyone even said hey you look nice today let alone told me I was pretty. When I was in high school one of the "good looking popular" boys told me I looked damn good if I'd cut off my ugly head. At least then I wasn't a fat lump. Now I guess I not only don't have looks but I don't have a body left either. I'm so sick of life and being second hand and last in priority lists.

I bought a book called the I like book for couples. Basically you each write in it one thing your like about the other person every day and each get to read it too. I have written in it daily. Spouse never even bothered to look at it even when I reminded and asked him too. Tonight I threw it away. Whatever.

Hmmm been a while.

He was still talking to his little tramp through part of December. She has now gone back to her ex. He says they don't talk other than one day when she called him trying to reach a different Person by the same name. He told me about it the same day then got pissed that I got upset over her texting and calling him.
Things aren't really better. He wouldn't continue counseling. Kid is having suicidal thoughts and depression issues. She is flunking school She's now on meds as of yesterday.
Asked spouse a few weeks agoif he was still thinking of leaving or if he wanted to try to work on and improve things. He says leaving is still a big option and he's still not sure what to do because things aren't going to change. He's not going to change and I am the one with the issues.
He told my daughter one evening unaware I was within earshot that she was just like me... Lazy and superficial. We were having a good day that day.